The other day I was hanging out with DIVA Helaine Harris (http://www.helainezharris.com) at her home near Lake Balboa here in Los Angeles. In addition to being a DIVA, she happens to be an amazing psychotherapist and spiritual teacher. So as you can imagine, every time I have even the most casual conversation with her, I come away with a some helpful knowledge.

So that day we were talking about her upcoming appearance on my show and I asked her advice on a situation I was having that was bothering me. She said, “Zoe, I’m sure this will work itself out but you have to make sure that you don’t start to harbor resentment toward this person because resentment only negatively effects the person who harbors the resentment. The person being resented never feels the pain.”

Okay, so that made me gasp. I had to get on my blackberry and google “resentment”. Not that I didn’t believe her but I needed a third-party confirmation. (It’s the journalist in me!). Everything that came up, said the same basically the same thing:

“By contrast, resentment does not have any direct negative effects on the person being resented, save for the deterioration of the relationship involved.”

You can do your own Google and see what you come up with. However, I’m convinced that letting an irritation or wrong-doing go and taking the high road is hands-down the best solution to bothersome people and things. Afterall, if harboring resentment toward someone is ruining YOUR day and not theirs, what’s the point, right? I mean lets be real here. Why give yourself high blood-pressure over something that the other person is not even being effected by?

I heard something the other day that says it all in a nutshell: “Don’t be like a chicken or a crow and squabble amongst yourself and others. Be like an eagle. They are stronger, more powerful and can fly to higher altitudes than chickens and crows. So when one of those birds bothers an eagle, they don’t even bother to fight with them. They just soar up to heights that chickens and crows can’t reach.”  Wouldn’t you rather be an eagle? It’s just a thought.

Have a great day!